7 steps to mental health during motherhood

by Munchkins, parent coaching
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“My kids drive me crazy!” This is something most of us have said or thought at some stage, while feeling overwhelmed by the demands of parenting. Yet, many mothers stare more severe psychological problems (particularly postpartum depression) in the face and will need professional help to overcome this obstacle. As mothers, we should all invest in our mental well-being by caring not only for everyone in our family but for ourselves too. “Everyone needs a break from child-related challenges to stay sane.”

1. Depression-busting diet

When the going gets tough, many of us succumb to fast and unhealthy snacks to make us feel better and save us time. However, prioritising healthy eating is worth the effort. A balanced diet rich in proteins, vegetables and healthy fats (especially those celebrated omega-3s) safeguards your brain. On the contrary, sugary foods and processed carbohydrates encourage mood swings.
“Everyone needs a break from child-related challenges to stay sane.”
Remove temptation from your life by removing unhealthy foods in your house. Find “cheat” ways to work nutritious food into your everyday eating habits, e.g. mixing greens into smoothies and frozen veggies into quick scrambled eggs. Green Smoothie - Baby Yum Yum

2. Move it!

You cannot run away from depression … Or can you? The endorphins we excrete when exercising are natural mood enhancers. Plus, exercise is a crucial part of staying physically healthy, which in turn affects mental well-being. postpartum depression - Baby Yum Yum

3. Me-time

The Macmillan Dictionary exemplifies the concept of “me-time” with the following sentence: “Like most parents with young children, I don’t get much me-time.” We know, right?! Everyone needs a break from child-related challenges to stay sane. If you’re a working mother, try to incorporate intentional self-time into your working routine (e.g. listening to e-books while you are in traffic; making dates with yourself or people who energise you during lunch hour). If you’re a stay-at-home mom, you need at least half an hour daily away from children, if at all realistic. Try to work in longer stretches of alone time during weekends if you have more access to babysitters then. Consider doubling up your free time to use for exercise (if you enjoy sport) or investing in your spiritual life. Have at least one hobby in your life that does not revolve around your children – join a book club, play tennis, do gardening, etc. Postpartum Depression Symptoms, Causes, Risks

4. Social support

You cannot be alone on this journey. A key protective factor against depression is having people around you to support you both emotionally and practically on the parenting journey. Make use of the helpful people in your life and reach out to others, too. Caring is a two-way street and sometimes helping helps the helper even more! Remember that your first and foremost supporter is your spouse and therefore prioritising your marriage is part of nurturing yourself and your family as a whole. Baby Yum Yum

5. Re-examined expectations

The gap between expectation and reality mostly equals disappointment, stress or frustration. When we have small children, we need to adapt our previous ways of thinking lest we become depressed or distressed. As discussed, your amount of free time will naturally be reduced. Other examples include lower productivity and less money to spend on yourself. Change your mindset and remember that this intense season is not going to last forever, but that it is (despite its trials) also a uniquely beautiful time. Try to find satisfaction in the moment (“Aaaah, look at these cute little toes!”) rather than longing for things you do not have access to right now (“If only my toes were pedicured…”). Baby Yum Yum - Parenting Blog

6. Chaos control

Sometimes, a few changes in the home can work wonders for your mental state. For example, if your children go to bed at an appropriate time, you will have more hours to spend on chores, your husband or yourself. If your children are in a good routine, there may be fewer tantrums chewing away at your emotional stability. This is where Munchkins can help you – consider a parent coaching session with us where we can gently guide you to establish peace in your home. Parenting Tips And Information

7. Act soon on the signs

Postpartum depression is a mood disorder that has its onset around the time of a baby’s birth. Be informed as to what is normal “baby blues” and what is indicative of a more severe condition. Here is a helpful resource. Be sure to contact a healthcare specialist if you have been feeling depressed for over two weeks or the symptoms are worsening; when you have thoughts of hurting yourself or the baby, or when your normal daily functioning and child-caring abilities are affected. Baby Yum Yum - Postpartum depression Visit the South African Depression and Anxiety Group if you need assistance or a 24-hour suicide emergency hotline. Looking after yourself is not selfish – only if you are obsessed with your own well-being above others’ does it become egocentric. If you are not well, chances are very high that your entire household might end up in trouble. Your sanity is important for everyone’s safety! The original version of this article can be found on the website of our partner, Munchkins.

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